I posted a picture this morning with a seemingly simple message- "don't over think, just let it go." But as I started thinking about the whole concept of letting go, I realized it's been applying to my life for a while. In acting, you'll either be booking amazing things all the time or not have an audition for five months straight. For the last half of 2014, I was the latter. At first I was frustrated, acting is my passion and I'm not bad at it- so why is did not even one opportunity come up? Not only that, but I chose to do online school my senior year for acting! I did everything I could, looked up auditions every day, networked, diligently went to acting class, and nothing. Thank God I realized stressing about it would only make it worse, and I decided to let it go. Eventually I realized there was another plan in store for me, something little called "My Closet etc." I put my newly found energy into my budding business, and soon enough I started going to the studio and recording a few singles. And now I'm working way more, booking photo shoots, short films, and a few other roles.
Life is all about phases, and that's something that's essential to understand in order to have healthy relationships. If you're struggling over the loss of a friendship, a relationship, or a certain phase in your life, know that, as long as you did all you could and lived it to the fullest, it was supposed to happen this way. We grow out of people just like we grow out of things, we change and sometimes the changes don't work well with that one person you used to be so close with. Letting go of the people that you don't feel the same way about or who have changed is necessary. Sometimes relationships don't last forever- but the memories do, cherish them and let go.
There are lots of problems and situations that seem to never get better. I look back on the situation I used to be in and smile at the growth I've gone through these past few years. I thought my misery would go on forever- I thought I'd never love my body, I'd never change who I was, I'd never be confident and truly believe I'm beautiful. My family went through a divorce which lasted four years- what felt like a lifetime in a thirteen year old's eyes. Now I understand the situation shaped me into the woman I am today. It made me see the sheer strength and spirit my mum has, and it made me appreciate family more than ever. Difficult situations make you stronger if you allow them to. I thought I could save my parent's marriage. I did all I could, and then I realized it wasn't my battle to fight. After learning this, I appreciated the newfound growth that came from the fire; I knew then that situations can be tough, but I'm tougher. When problems arise, remember they are temporary. Do everything in your power without a stressful mindset, then let the problem go. Try to learn, grow, and take it as a lesson.
Letting people, problems, and relationships go doesn't magically happen. You make a conscious decision to not let anything steal your joy and inner peace. Make the decision to not worry about things that are temporary and not in your control. Make the decision to understand your life is full of phases and that person's phase with you has ended. Look at yourself every day and say "I'm letting go of ___." Believe it. When you feel the worry creep into your mind, say out loud "I'm not worrying about that anymore. I let it go." Do whatever you need- try a new hobby, put your energy into something creative, go outside. Stop allowing your beautiful self to be stressed and anxious- let it go.